Domestic Violence Safety Plan & Preparation Guide
By Dr. Alicia HB, Therapist
 
The Domestic Violence Safety Plan is a practical, structured tool designed to help you think through safety before, during, and after leaving an unsafe relationship. If you are experiencing abuse or even questioning your safety, having a plan can reduce chaos and increase clarity during overwhelming moments.
 
This resource is designed to be supportive, straightforward, and trauma-informed, not alarmist and not overwhelming.
 
What This Resource Is
This safety plan is designed to help you:
Slow down and think through safety in advance
Prepare for moments when emotions may be high
Identify trusted people and emergency contacts
Organize important documents and essentials
Increase safety before, during, and after leaving
 
It is not about forcing immediate action. It is about increasing preparedness and options. Planning does not mean you have to leave today. It simply means you are thinking ahead.
 
What’s Included
This printable safety plan includes:
Guidance for what to do if violence escalates
Preparation steps before leaving
A structured emergency contact section
A detailed checklist of important documents and items to take
Post-separation safety precautions
Space to personalize your plan
 
The format is clear and organized so you can complete it privately, with a trusted person, or alongside a therapist or advocate.
 
Why This Can Be Helpful
When someone is living in an abusive or controlling relationship, decision-making can feel overwhelming. Safety planning:
Creates clarity during crisis moments
Reduces panic by outlining next steps
Encourages intentional preparation
Supports both physical and emotional safety
Having a written plan can provide grounding and direction if things escalate unexpectedly.
 
How to Use This Resource
You can:
Complete it privately and keep it in a safe place
Store a copy outside of your home
Review it periodically and update as needed
Use it alongside therapy or advocacy support
 
This document is meant to empower, not pressure.
 
Important Note
If you are in immediate danger, call 911. The National Domestic Violence Hotline number is 800-799-7233.
 
This resource is designed for education and preparation. It is not a substitute for individualized safety planning with a local domestic violence advocate, attorney, or law enforcement professional.
 
You deserve to feel safe.
You deserve to be protected.
You deserve a life free from violence.