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Have you ever found yourself saying:

  • "I don't even recognize who I've become anymore."

  • "I keep making excuses for their behavior and I'm exhausted."

  • "I love my kids, but I'm terrified I'm going to mess them up."

  • "Every time something good happens, I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop."

  • "I've finally left, but I still don't feel free."

  • "I don't know how to explain it. I just know it wasn't okay."

  • "I'm so angry and I don't know what to do with it."

  • "I want to stop apologizing for everything."

  • "My body tenses up at things that shouldn't bother me."

  • "I've been strong for everyone else for so long."

  • "I keep ending up in the same kind of relationships and I'm done."

  • "I want to be present for my family, but my past keeps pulling me under."

  • "I'm finally safe, but my brain hasn't gotten the memo yet."

  • "I just want to stop feeling guilty for putting myself first."

If any of that sounds familiar, you're in the right place.
And you don't have to have it all figured out to reach out.

My Areas of Expertise:
Trauma, Emotional Abuse & Women’s Mental Health

I focus on supporting individuals through various phases of life, addressing identity struggles, mental health needs, and significant life changes. My areas of expertise include: 

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Domestic Violence Recovery

Supporting survivors in rebuilding self-esteem and creating a safe, healthy future.

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Sexual Trauma Support

Trauma recovery, fostering emotional safety, and supporting holistic healing.

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Trauma Support & Healing

Overcoming complex trauma, navigating dissociation, and fostering inner strength.

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Managing

Depression & Anxiety

Addressing mood imbalances, chronic worry, and overcoming avoidance behaviors.

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Narcissistic Abuse

Recovery​

Rebuild self-worth, recognize manipulation, set boundaries, and reclaim your voice.

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Navigating

Grief & Loss

Navigating life after loss, understanding grief stages, and finding paths to healing.

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Women’s Mental Health

Supporting women navigating life challenges, including reproductive health, pregnancy and postpartum, and parenting stress.

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Parenting Support

Empowering parents with tools to support children’s emotional growth and manage parental stress.

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Adoption & Foster Families

Navigating unique challenges, strengthening family bonds, and fostering resilience and understanding.

My Credentials & Training as a Licensed Trauma Therapist

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Here's what you need to know about me: I have a PhD, a master's degree, a bachelor's degree, a therapy license, a tenured faculty position, a private practice, two kids, a husband, a camera I carry everywhere, and a Moms Demand Action volunteer badge. And I still answered your inquiry email at 10 pm because that's just who I am as a person.

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I specialize in healing after emotional and psychological abuse, trauma recovery, domestic violence, narcissistic abuse, anxiety, depression, and the very specific kind of exhaustion that comes from holding everyone else together while quietly falling apart yourself. I see you. Literally, that's my job.

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I didn't end up here by accident. Before private practice, I was volunteering on a domestic violence hotline, working as a victim advocate for a police department, and writing my doctoral research on what it actually takes for survivors to leave abusive relationships and rebuild their lives. I've been a hotline volunteer, a victim advocate, a researcher, and a foster parent. My bar for "shocking" is basically nonexistent at this point.

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That background means I'm not just academically familiar with what emotional and psychological abuse does to a person. I understand the confusion, the self-doubt, the way you can love someone and still know something is very wrong. I understand why leaving is complicated, why staying is complicated, and why healing takes so much longer than anyone tells you it will.

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I started in this field because I believe healing is possible, even when it feels absolutely impossible, and because sometimes you need a therapist who gets it, not just clinically, but humanly.

Bachelor of Social Work (BSW)

Texas Christian University

Education (The Receipts)

2013-2017

Doctor of Philosophy (PhD)
in Social Work

University of Texas at Arlington

2010-2011

Master of Science in
Social Work (MSSW)

University of Texas at Arlington

(Because you deserve to know who you're trusting with the hard stuff.)

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I earned my PhD in Social Work from the University of Texas at Arlington, where my research focused on intimate partner violence, trauma recovery, and survivor advocacy. My dissertation explored the experiences of survivors navigating life after abusive relationships, and that work has never felt purely academic to me. It's always been personal in the sense that I'm deeply invested in getting it right for the people it affects.

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Before that, I completed my Master of Science in Social Work, also at UTA. And it all started with my Bachelor of Social Work at Texas Christian University, where I first discovered that working with trauma survivors was exactly where I was supposed to be.

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In addition to working in private practice, I'm a tenured Associate Professor at Our Lady of the Lake University in San Antonio, where I've been teaching since 2017. I teach graduate and doctoral level courses, chair dissertations, and do research on gun violence prevention and intimate partner violence, because apparently I don't believe in having a slow Tuesday.

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I'm currently completing my clinical hours toward my LCSW. Still going, still growing.

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Outside the office, I volunteer with Moms Demand Action as a Be SMART facilitator in Tarrant County, advocating for safe firearm storage to protect kids. I'm a foster and adoptive mom, a wife, a TCU fan (Horned Frogs forever), a passionate photographer, and mom to a spirited daughter and a toddler who fully runs this household.

2005-2009

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Ready to See If We're a Good Fit?

My caseload is currently full because apparently, word got out. But I have a waitlist, a narcissistic abuse recovery support group forming for Fall 2026, and downloadable resources if you need something right now.

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I offer free 15-minute consultations, no pressure, no commitment, just a real conversation to see if working together feels right.

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Either way, reaching out is the first step. And that step matters.

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Licensed in Texas (LMSW under the supervision of Lindsey Stanley, LCSW-S)

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